Mistress Wellbeing

What are Your Rules for Life?

May 30, 2023

‘I should be a better mother.'

'I must keep my house tidy and clean at all times.'

'There must always be home cooked cake.'

'I should work harder.'

'I should eat only nutritious food.'

'I should exercise every single day.'

'I should try harder.'

'I should be better at marketing my business.’

There’s a few of...

Do You Discount the Positive?

May 23, 2023

When I first came across Martin Seligman and his ideas about happiness it was a game changer as I was so deeply mired in my own negative thinking styles. I thought it was how I was wired 😂

Here’s the good news!

We can change.

Our minds are infinitely neuroplastic.

Mind gym is possibly more important than...

Catastrophising- Unhelpful Thinking Style #3

May 16, 2023

Doe you sometimes leap to the worst possible outcome for a situation?

Does your mind like to scare you with exaggerated and terrible possibilities?

MIne too.

It's called catastrophising, and it's very common.

Naturally, anxiety is fuelled by this type of thinking and mood is also affected, resulting in a perfect storm...

Unhelpful Thinking Styles Series - Magical Thinking

May 9, 2023

Undoing these thinking habits will make you happier, emotionally healthier, and more joyful.

Here's my example of magical thinking...

Some aspects of my perfectionism about work had a magical quality to it, I realise now.

If I dressed correctly (like doctors do), had good hair and always turned up on time, nothing...

Unhelpful Thinking Styles Series - Black and White Thinking

May 2, 2023

I’m no CBT advocate, but thinking which fuels anxiety and misery is a real thing and an easy place to shift.

When I read about ‘cognitive distortions’ years ago, I could relate to most of them 😂.

Happily, psychotherapy provides a compassionate container for change at a deep level, which also affects...